On the western calendar, we have several “holidays” created by card companies. Mother’s day being one of those days.
It boggles my mind to think that people need a special day to show their love for someone who is supposed to be the pillar of their existence.
I do not partake in any of the so called holidays that have been created by corporations and card companies (Valentine’s, Mother’s, Father’s, Grandparent’s, Boss’s, secretary’s Flag, etc. days). Just as I do not celebrate ethnic holidays (St. Pat’s, Cinco De Mayo, St. Augustine’s etc. day) . Nor do I get sucked into the religious ones either (Easter, X-mas, etc.).
It’s not that I do not celebrate, I take the JW position on holidays, and I am thankful for the people in my life every day of the year, and celebrate it EVERY DAY! I do not need a special day to know that my daughter loves me. To me every day is Mother’s day, GrandMama’s day, Valentine’s Day etc. …
I feel that society is guilted into spending money on the ones they love to prove how much they love them. Yet, we all are taught that material possessions do not equate love. How can we succeed with that kind of twisting guilt?
I do not want any part of anything that makes anyone feel rotten for not being what the media and corporations say we should be. Whole marketing campaigns are designed to make people feel the need to spend their hard earned money on one HUGE item, or loads of tiny ones, to give to their loved ones.
If one is in a relationship, it is geared to guilt each partner, which one will possibly not do as well as the other, and then quiet silent guilt is magically there, poking them in the eye saying “You suck, you should have spent more money.”
If one is single, a plethora of options for the single person are available to share in the guilt. But this guilt is geared towards the single person being a failure for being alone.
Fuck that shit! I don’t need any of that kind of nonsense in my life. The people I care about get x-mas every day, they get Thanksgiving all the time, Valentine’s day? Every fucking moment of my life. I do not need a pointed out day to know that life is good, people love me, and I am a worthy person.
When I stopped acknowledging these man made holidays, my life simplified. No more household decorations, no saying “if I get that for Billy, I have to get Suzie an equal valued item.” There is no overeating of chocolates…. well, yeah there is always that. But I do not need a basket of eggs to go with that chocolate.
If you feel the need to celebrate these holidays, good for you, perpetuate more guilt. that is awesome. It is awesome because it’s what you want. The beast can’t live without fodder, I suppose.
So I do enjoy watching the black Friday fight videos, because, you know, violence is a great way to show someone you love them.
The only day that I pick out of the year to celebrate is my birthday, then, it is easily a month long celebration. Each day dedicated to giving to others, sharing gifts, loving those who are close to me, and surviving another 365 days.